the secret knots

Is it better to say a big secret before or after marriage?
When the time is right for your partner a big secret your life? Ie Is it always good to wait until you're married or you should always get all the air before really the crux Based on Is it time to really "hold your peace forever?"
honestly, if he really loves the material wont how the situation is so OK to tell him before or after. As it did not matter to murder. : /
The Secret Knot or Quilter’s Knot





